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The Sales Stoic

March 3rd - Stay True To Yourself

7 min

“You need to be consistent, committed to either being good or bad. Focus your energy either on sharpening your own thinking or getting caught up in things beyond your control. Prioritise your inner world, not external distractions.” - Epictetus

Success stems from staying true to yourself.

Epictetus reminds us: that you can’t live two conflicting lives, either stick to your principles or let external noise dictate your actions.

True mastery comes from focusing on what you can control and aligning your actions with your values.

In sales, this means prioritising honesty over short-term wins.

Don’t sell a dream; guide clients toward their realistic goals. Authenticity builds trust, happier clients, and long-term success.

Actionable tips:

  • Always align your sales approach with your core values, even under pressure. Don’t sacrifice long-term relationships for short-term gains.
  • Focus on refining your pitch, building strong client relationships, and improving your knowledge base. Let go of the things outside your control, like market shifts or clients’ decisions.

Remember you will die.

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Disclaimer:

The Sales Stoic draws inspiration from the profound wisdom of Stoicism as presented in Ryan Holiday's "The Daily Stoic." As avid readers & fans, we deeply respect the work of Ryan Holiday, and acknowledge the significant impact of Stoic philosophy on our own approach to sales and life.

While The Sales Stoic applies the core principles of Stoicism to the unique challenges and opportunities faced by salespeople, it is an original work with its own distinct voice and focus. We aim to build upon the timeless wisdom of Stoicism to empower sales professionals with practical guidance and actionable insights for success in their careers and personal lives.

  • Jack Frimston

    Jack Frimston

    Co-Founder at We Have a Meeting

  • Zac Thompson

    Zac Thompson

    Co-Founder at We Have a Meeting

Well, well, well. Fancy seeing you here after what you've done. I feel really guilty about what happened. You made me the beans, you made me the toast, but you didn't put them together. And you are so beans on toast. So I'm gonna talk to you about, easy for you to say, Epictetus. These things don't go together. You must be a unified human being, either good or bad.

You must diligently work either on your own reasoning or on things out of your control. Take great care with the inside and not what's outside, which is to say, stand with the philosopher or else with the mob. Where do you stand? What do you think I stand? Outside in the cold. Get your jacket. That last bit gets me thinking about, stand with the philosopher or else with the mob. Gets me thinking about, let's say you're in a market that's

crowded or you're in a, you're in a process where it's a request for quote, I'm coming to you. I'm coming to cognizim. Then I'm going to zoom info. I'm going to all the different data providers and the processes all feel quite the same. Zoom info are telling me how different they are cognizim and telling me how different they are. It might be that it all feels the same and then maybe deal from getting volts. Wow. And they say, well, well, well, I'm going to

challenge the approacher. Okay. And here's, I'm to do it. You're used to me trying to wow you. You used to me trying to impress you. You used to it being all about me. I'm going to say to you right at the start of the call, look, what needs to happen by the of this call for it to be a good use of your time? Wow. You're making it about me. Okay. And if all those things happen, then what? Well, then we might move forward. I suppose if all those things are ticked off. Okay. Well, just so I can be really ethical with your time.

Let me tell you some reasons you might not want to move forward. This feels totally different. The reality of a lot of businesses is I put down all the features and advantages and benefits of what I do. I put my name at the top, my company name. I rub out the company name and I put one of my competitors. It's the exact same business. No one notices. of course. Everyone's going to say they've got the same set of core values and core principles, but really it's all about the prospect. The purple cow.

When other zig- Elephant. You zag. Do you know what mean? It's the purple elephant. When you zig, they zag. But it's the purple elephant, isn't it? I don't think so. You're getting confused with the pink elephant and the purple cow. No. I think it is the purple cow, you know. No, I don't think it is. Alright, okay. It is the purple cow. We've got confirmation on the purple cow. Wow! Okay, live on Can we get a replay on that? The purple cow, yeah. When you zig-

They zag no when you you fuck me up here this episode. I always win so yeah, it's about standing out in your in your market and Listen disruptive marketing is like a phrase that's thrown about by every marketeer We want to be like liquid death. Yeah, of course you do but but being different is what what makes you stand out what puts your side and salespeople can do that not by

from a marketing front, just by having a different sales process, there's something that we've been talking about recently about getting the buyer involved in the journey. So making it a little bit harder for them. So like maybe getting them involved with some sort of comparison, but they've got to bring something to us to be involved in the process. Talk, talk me through that. Oh, the comparison meeting. Yeah. So we've been talking at the minute with people who are in saturated markets. The process is very, very similar.

It's a case of a little bit of a fact find. Here's what I'm looking for. We go away, we present it to you blind. We don't really know what we're going up against. We don't know what you're doing already. And then they go away and tell you it's all a bit of a blind taste test. I don't really know what's going to happen. But what we've been exploring is basically trying out a comparison test. So understanding, okay, you've got that process. I don't expect you to play your hand here.

What we normally do just to make sure we've really understood everything is we pick one item that you're looking for here. We come into the business and we just do a little comparison test against what you're doing at the minute, just for one thing and what we might be able to offer. And then we go away and we base the whole thing like, just so we can be a bit more focused in what we're doing. Because the process feels different. Think of it like this. If there's a page full of numbers and there's two letters on it, the two letters stand out. So in a formula.

The thing that stands out, that was a bit different in their formula is the thing that differentiates you. Your USP can be just literally the way you sell. That can be your USP. Don't tell me you're different. Show me you're different. Don't tell me you're funny. Make me laugh. Exactly. And that was a command. Wow. Thank you. There's loads in it. Say the quote again, because it makes me think about loads of different things. The whole way through? No, just the last line. Stand with the philosopher.

or else with the mob. Wow. It's great for like culture as well. Like I think of being in a massive sales organization and everybody's doing the same thing, but actually being like, I know that you in some of your past organizations were doing things that people didn't really get or agree with. And it's about how do I stand on my own two feet and how do I kind of lead the pack or do my own thing and not be afraid?

When you look at young people today, they all dress the same and look the same and sound the same. There are a few- And they've got your haircut. I've had this haircut for the last 20 years, so don't worry about that. But there are a few that like stand out on their own. And it's part of belonging to a tribe. And I get that and it's about feeling safe. And it goes back to that rejection of if I'm part of the tribe, I'm less likely to be rejected, which means I'm less likely to die. But that doesn't happen in 2025.

And what really happens is if you're allowed to, if you, you stand out on your own, you can, you can set the bar. You can set the pace. Remember pessimists get to be right. Optimists get to be rich. So be different, be the person that you want to be. Think differently and don't be afraid to step away from the mob. Yeah. I've been Jack Frimston. I've been Zach Thompson. Remember you will die. Don't throw stones in glasscats.

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