The Sales Stoic

February 20th - The Illusion Of Desire

5 min

“Robbers, perverts, killers, and tyrants— take a look at their so-called pleasures!” - Marcus Aurelius

Fleeting pleasures can lead to harm, as seen in the pursuit of status, wealth, or instant gratification. True value lies in resisting these temptations and focusing on what truly matters. In sales, the lure of quick wins and high commissions can tempt us to cut corners, over-promise, or act out of self-interest. But such actions erode trust and damage relationships in the long run.

Jordan Belfort, The Wolf of Wall Street, shows how unchecked desire for wealth and status can lead to moral corruption and ultimate downfall.

Success isn't about chasing fleeting rewards, it’s about balancing ambition with ethics.

Build trust, stay grounded, and aim for lasting impact over temporary gains.

Actionable tips:

  • Before making a decision, ask yourself whether it’s driven by genuine value or short-term gain. Prioritise relationships over quick wins.
  • Always set realistic expectations with clients. It's better to under-promise than over-deliver.
  • Reflect on how today's actions contribute to your overall career growth and personal integrity rather than just immediate outcomes.

Remember you will die.

Watch The Sales Stoic on Stream by Dealfront: https://www.dealfront.com/resources/stream/the-sales-stoic

Listen to The Sales Stoic: Spotify: https://tinyurl.com/spotify-the-sales-stoic Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/apple-the-sales-stoic

Subscribe to The Sales Stoic for daily insights: https://www.dealfront.com/resources/the-sales-stoic

Follow Jack & Zac: Jack: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jack-frimston-5010177b/ Zac: https://www.linkedin.com/in/zac-thompson-33a9a39b/

Connect with We Have a Meeting: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/we-have-a-meeting/ Website: https://www.wehaveameeting.com/

Disclaimer:

The Sales Stoic draws inspiration from the profound wisdom of Stoicism as presented in Ryan Holiday's "The Daily Stoic." As avid readers & fans, we deeply respect the work of Ryan Holiday, and acknowledge the significant impact of Stoic philosophy on our own approach to sales and life.

While The Sales Stoic applies the core principles of Stoicism to the unique challenges and opportunities faced by salespeople, it is an original work with its own distinct voice and focus. We aim to build upon the timeless wisdom of Stoicism to empower sales professionals with practical guidance and actionable insights for success in their careers and personal lives.

  • Jack Frimston

    Jack Frimston

    Co-Founder at We Have a Meeting

  • Zac Thompson

    Zac Thompson

    Co-Founder at We Have a Meeting

It's World Muffin Day. Is it? It is. I know. We're gonna go and get you a muffin after this. I know you've been looking forward to one. It's the 20th of February. So get your trumpet out.

Because here they come. Robbers, perverts, killers and tyrants gather for your inspection their so-called pleasures. Marcus Aurelius meditations. Pleasures. People chase them, don't they? It wouldn't be a sales stoic conversation without talking about somebody in sales who has maybe ruined the word salesman. god.

His name's Jordan Belfort. Jordan. Formerly known as the Wharf of Salford Crescent. And by Salford Crescent, I mean Wall Street. Have you seen the film? I've seen it a lot of times and I thoroughly enjoy it. Did you? I enjoy everything it stands for. Did you ever base your personality when you were 21, 22 working in sales on Jordan Belfort? Definitely. think everyone first set out sales certainly did. Why are you saying it like that? What?

like you know something. know a lot of things. Robbers, perverts, killers and tyrants. Yes. How are you all four in one? I don't know. I don't know. It's a skill. It's a skill. But he he was he's a bit better these days. He talks about it more ethically, but I think he was corrupt, wasn't he? And he did what he wanted to do to fulfill his own needs. And a lot of salespeople do this. And I think that salespeople forget it's about serving.

and sales is helping others. And can I see the problems that you're facing and can I help you solve them? Yeah. Yeah, exactly. And then often when I think about the Wolf of Wall Street, he started off with the right intentions, didn't he? He started off, he went to Wall Street and he's looking around thinking, OK, this is exciting. There's something going on here. He goes and has a... He goes and has the lunch. Yeah.

And the guy's like, no, doesn't really work. It works differently than you think. Okay. And then suddenly he's found as a loophole in things and he's running away with it. It's getting bigger and bigger and the lies getting bigger and bigger and it falls away with him. But he started out with the right intentions. He was corrupted along the way. I find salespeople typically will try and find the loopholes and there is a funny thing about like

innovators and like some of the best inventors are just lazy people and they're looking for good solutions. But there also is that, I trying to find the easiest way to do this? especially when like booking meetings, like, what are the intentions? Will I get rewarded on people that just like anything that I book in the diary? So I'll just get anything over the line. Well, is it best for them? Like, like we've got to think about the prospect and are we actually helping them solve the problem? Not about you and your commission check.

And so we, we talk a lot about like realistic desired future state. Yes, we do. We've added the word realistic there, haven't we? We have. expectations meets reality is the level of happiness that you want to get to. And salespeople have this habit of selling things at perfect. Does it do this? Yeah, we're the best at that.

and they sell this idea of it's gonna be perfect when we work together. But what they're often left with is maybe if it's something great, something good, something that has a few teething problems but works out in the end, the experience for the customer is that was a bit disappointing because I was expecting perfect. So that's one angle of it. But the reason we put realistic desired future in here is we'd speak to people who'd say, I'd know this was working if I booked

Um, if we close the deal in the first month and say, okay, how long is your sales cycle? Six months. Right. So then is it reasonable to assume a deal or closing the first month? Well, no, but you said you were really good. No, but I don't sit the meetings though. You'd okay. Fine. Well then. All right. Fair enough. Well, let's say that we're having good conversations in the first month. Then I'd know that it was working then right now we've gone to a realistic expectation. Come from unrealistic to realistic.

And there's definitely, Sarah is in the early part of the business where people have maybe come to conclusions because we've not had that conversation. It's an essential conversation to have because they will, I thought you'd be able to do this based on what we never had the conversation around what you actually hoping to get out of this and where you're planting that flag of expectation. it realistic? salespeople like you don't want to be going out there finding new clients to replace your old clients every single month. What you want is repeat business.

customers that are happy and finding out what that looks like. Like if you can find customers that want to be with you for life and you've got something that's repeatable, that's the best place to be. Why? Because then you don't have that feast of famine where you're constantly going, well, we've lost five new clients. We need to go and find seven to sustain this month. You want to be in a position where you're saying, everyone's doing it. We're going to find new business because we want to grow and we want to achieve our beehives. Nice.

Nice. Thank you. No worries. I've been Jack Frimston. I've been Zack Thompson. Remember you would die. Don't be a Robert. Be a rubber.

More from this series
See more

More series

Exclusive series on demand

Watch anywhere, anytime.